Self-confidence is a big topic. I have asked a few people what they would love me to talk about, and one of the things is self-confidence.
It’s quite interesting, as I tuned into why I believe I’m confident or why I have confidence in certain areas.
The answer I got was different and today, I’m going to share with you a few things as to how I believe and how I experience confidence within me. As a confidence coach, all I can share with you is my own personal experience.
But to be honest the question “How do you become a kickass confident?” is not very easy to answer. I don’t think there’s really a lot of people out there that teach confidence, and a lot of people don’t really talk about it, although they talk about other things that are quite similar.
The first thing that I came up with as to why I think or why I believe I’m confident are these things. I’m going to give you three tips. Here we go:
1. Just Do It
This is how I become confident in myself, I’m just doing it.
Literally just doing it. If there’s something that I want to be, or create, or do, I will do whatever the fuck it takes.
If it means that I’ve got to break down walls, and I’ve got to completely change things in my life, you’ve got to do it, because the thing is, to get confidence in yourself and the things that you desire, and the things that you want to create in your world, is literally, in my eyes, a choice we make.
Now, confidence comes in all different levels, from confidence in your body, and, “I’m not very confident with my body,” that’s another conversation, but I believe I’m confident with my voice.
That’s what I’m really communicating here today is my voice, and as I was saying before, for me, it’s just about saying it or doing it, so if it’s what’s inside of you, you need to do that.
The only way you’re going to become confident at that thing that you need to do is by showing up and by doing it and saying “yes” to you.
As I said previously, it was quite hard for me to answer, but I’m trying to feel into the things that I am confident in, and the things that I have in my past, and the things that I am challenged to do right now in my world of being confident.
Believe me, I’m no genius at being confident at everything. I’m still growing and achieving and going through this whole process of life, but for me, confidence is about doing it.
It’s about just doing it and saying what you want to do, and sticking to your guns, and not getting off track, and not letting other people stop you from being confident in what it is that you want to do.
The other thing that was really big for me too is your truth. If you have a desire to be something, like say it’s a change in career, or being confident with your voice and being able to express yourself, what it is that you want to do, or say, you’ve got to say it.
You’ve just got to say that thing, and you’ve just got to do that thing, because the confidence is, and I don’t know if this is getting through to you if this is resonating with you, but for me, why would we hold ourself back from things that we want to have in our life, and why would we hold back from what we need and what we need to say to somebody?
All it does is create trauma and drama. Trauma, drama, pain, anger, all those yucky things in our world or in our essence, in our whole persona, when we’re not living our truth, when we’re not being confident with what we need to say, or being confident with what we want to do.
All these other emotions come through us because we’re not being confident in what we need to do.
Now, something else that strokes me, too, in this is, not always what you’re needing to do is going to happen, is it?
It doesn’t always just go to plan, or it doesn’t always flow, and things don’t always go exactly as planned, but if you can say to yourself that, “I gave it my best shot. I did everything I could,” and really mean that from deep down inside of you, you know that you did your best in being confident in what it is that you want to create.
I don’t want to say, “Um,” because I’m pretty … I’m really passionate about this. Actually, it’s quite interesting, as I said, is, I feel like there’s, it’s quite a hard topic to really talk about.
That’s what I sense, but anyway, the other thing is, too, if there are other people out there doing things that you want to create, you can create the same things in your life.
You can be confident, too. Being shy, I know there are shy people. I know there are nervous and anxious people, and they think they can’t do it, but it’s only really a thought that you can’t do it, and you can do it. You’re no different to anybody else.
You’re exactly like anybody else that wants to do something, so someone is creating something that you want to create or be someone that you want to be, you can, too.
You’re going to have to take those uncomfortable steps. You can’t just accept to sit back and wait for that shit to fall in your lap.
It’s not going to happen, so you’re going to have to make new choices, or you’re going to have to delete things in your life for you to get those things.
You may have to delete people in your life. That’s just how it is, but you’ve got to make that decision and be confident, and that is standing in your truth, in what it is that you need to do.
Just do it, is number one.
2. Use Your Voice
Number two is, use your voice. Practice saying the things that you need to say, so if it’s just your voice that you need to be confident in, you just need to practice what it is that you need to say, and continue to say it, and believe in yourself.
Then the third thing is practice. If you need to meditate before you do it, or you need to go and sit out in nature or go to the beach, do that, too, but you’ll know what those things are.
Get yourself prepared and in that state, ready to do what it is that you want to do.
So now that you have these 3 tips to become a badass confident woman, it’s now time to put them into action.
Remember that you have all it takes to create the life you deserve. You just need to believe and have confidence in yourself!
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